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The dates he takes you on are cut and dry- dinner, a walk on the beach, a coffee shop- never something adventurous or daring. He won’t make the move to give you the goodnight kiss that you’re dying for because he’s afraid to move too fast with you.
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His jokes are funny but safe- you would never hear an inappropriate or sarcastic pun escape his lips at risk of offending you. So why is it that you seem to write him off if he’s so perfect? He’s everything you could ask for in a gentleman. He walks you to your door at the end of the night without the expectation of being invited up. He brings you flowers and picks up the check. He’s sweet, intelligent, thoughtful, and caring. On paper, “The Nice Guy” is the total package. The Nice Guy: We’ve all met, and probably been on at least one date with, “The Nice Guy.” He’s classically handsome, chivalrous, and everything your mom and grandma describe when they talk about your perfect match. Here are a few that every single girl is likely to encounter at one point or another on her roller coaster ride to find love: I’m sure there’s a list a mile long of the different guys we’ve gone on dates with, and each has a defining characteristic that strikes him off of our future husband list. Most of us go through a roller coaster of guys before we find “the one”. Not everyone is lucky enough to have a love life that is so successful, it seems like an elite matchmaker laid it out for them. While we may have overlooked it as a silly fairytale growing up, our favorite blonde, porridge eating character staged the perfect symbolism for what many of us experience in our journey to find love, which I like to call: the Goldilocks Effect. She rummages through their house, trying each bear’s porridge, sitting in each bear’s chair and sleeping in each bear’s bed until she finds the one that’s just right. A little blonde girl wanders into the home of a family of bears who have gone out for a walk. We’ve all heard the old fairytale of Goldilocks and the Three Bears.